“Manipulation” in the Church

The following paragraph is an excerpt taken from a comment to another blog post……..
“It’s pretty sad for me to visit a church and then visit the pastor’s blog to find out about all the ways that the pastor and their volunteers tried to manipulate me into believing them by way of some cover song (none of which ever sound good!), or Starbucks coffee, or something else.”

Fellow production/artists/worship leaders/volunteers/etc. How would you respond to this individual.

I don’t necessarily disagree………



Filed under "Heart" issues, Church stuff, Life change

5 responses to ““Manipulation” in the Church

  1. Well at least they used STARBUCKS coffee….

  2. So is manipulation in this context about the church “doing something” to attenders to make them feel a certain way or is it that the attenders are uncomfortable with what they were feeling and become upset with the church?

  3. Based upon the paragraph, the individual wasn’t “upset” until he read the pastor’s blog.

  4. tom

    Doug, what an excellent post and what a brutally honest comment. Something that all churches should probably wrestle with. Many Christians are probably okay with using manipulation if it gets some people to agree with their mindset. I wonder if they realize what it does to those who resent it.

    Can we put ourselves in the place of the visitor? Do they see what we do as engaging in mental gymnastics, or emotional dramatics, in order to produce an intellecutal assertion into “our way of thinking” so they can fit in and join the club? Do we make them feel like notches in the belt of the church? (i.e. “we had 42 decisions for Christ in the first service.” Ouch. Have I done that? I think I have.)

    As they venture inside the door of the scary church, do they feel welcome, loved, and valued for who they are and not how the look, act, or think? Or is the message they hear, “You have to change and then you will be accepted and loved here.”

    Great post Doug.

  5. “Indeed, we refuse to make use of shameful underhanded methods, employing deception or distorting God’s message.” 2 Corinthians 4:2.

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